Discover Play as a Way of Being

Step One: Remember

Close your eyes and bring to mind an experience of play when you felt fully alive and present. Maybe it’s the last time you danced, took an adventurous walk, or spent the evening cooking and listening to your favorite music. Or perhaps it’s a memory from childhood when you were free to play without thought of time, purpose, or outcome. Allow yourself sufficient time to call forth a positive experience of play, whether recent or long ago.

Bring this memory of play to life by considering the following:

• Where were you? Were you alone or with others?
• What was your sensory experience of play? What did you see or hear, taste or smell? 
• Was it structured play or open? Were you aware of the passage of time?

Step Two: Make a List

While play can take limitless forms, there are key qualities that set play apart from other activities. Play typically does not have a purpose beyond itself; it is the purpose. Play often connects us to others, building new relationships and nurturing long-standing ones. Play taps our imagination, creativity, and problem-solving skills. Sometimes it takes courage. And it is fun! 

When you consider the experience of play that you recalled in step one, what qualities did it evoke? Make a list of three insights. It might look something like this:

• When I was playing, I was more able to laugh at my mistakes.
• When I was immersed in play, I was liberated from my task list…I was smiling!
• Because it was play, I was more comfortable taking risks and being vulnerable.

Step Three: Put These Qualities to Work!

While play is often an activity, it is also — perhaps most powerfully — a mindset or way of being. It is an approach to life. When you learn to relinquish certainty, invite spontaneity, and become fully present — all aspects of play — you open the door wide to greater happiness, new learning, enriched relationships, and delight. 

For this third step in the practice, identify something in your life that would benefit from a more playful approach. Is it a daily task like driving your kids to school or cooking meals? Is it a work project? An important relationship in your life? Perhaps the desire for your own improved well-being? Take your time to identify a specific area of your life where the playful qualities you named above could be applied. 

Building on the examples offered in step two, your reflection might look something like this:

• I’m looking to deepen my connection with a family member, and I’m realizing that if I could laugh at myself a bit more easily, it would soften this relationship.
• I’ve been longing to propose a new project at work, and approaching it more playfully would allow me to be more vulnerable.

Choose something that is actionable, something that you can experiment with today or in the near future.

Step Four: Reflect

As you practice applying what you experience in play to other areas of your life, take time to reflect on any changes that occur in your sense of well-being, in your work, in your relationships, and in your own heart. We hope you’ll find that play is not only for fun but is a key ingredient of greater meaning and joy in your daily life.