When you live with your fear of failure, where is your life? You’re continuously trying to ‘make your life’ because you’re afraid to live.
Nirmala Nair
Reflections of Life produces powerful short films that uplift the personal stories of ordinary people, with the goal of sharing ideas and inspiring change. We feel blessed to feature video-stories that filmmakers Michael and Justine capture with expertise, and which so beautifully illustrate grateful living principles and themes. In this short film we hear from Nirmala Nair.
Video Transcript
Simple secret…Don’t do anything that other people do do. If the world is telling you, you go this way, then you go that way. I mean I’m not saying be a rebel but don’t listen to what the mainstream tells you to do.
You do come to do a certain task in this lifetime. We all have that. The world out there that we live in, the material world, might take you away from that path. But there is something called soul’s calling.
The knowingness is always there in everybody. But how to unveil and unsheathe the knowingness? It’s not that easy these days because there’s a lot of bad signals and bad muffled noises. And the reception is not easy. Parental, schools, and societal — all the interference is muffling the signals.
How do you manage to not get swayed by that external mayhem and the chaos? And how can we navigate through that without losing our sense of self?
Your logical mind — that’s the problem with quite a lot of us who use our head.
Logic mind is not a bad mind. We need logic and we need reason.
But what — and it is my own word — I call it “Project Modernity.” You know, we can unpack that if you want. But what “Project Modernity” has done is give far too much of an importance and a priority to logic mind. As though everything has to have a logical, linear process in how you live your life.
There’s always some kind of a mundane chore that takes you over. The mundanity of life kills the soul.
Fear is an integral part of logic mind…fear and failure. I’ve got to accomplish this; I’ve got to have this much income; what if I fall sick? And what if I… It’s that fear, and fear of failure, that forces people to go through all of these logical processes.
When you live with your fear of failure, where is your life? You’re continuously trying to ‘make your life’ because you’re afraid to live.
In my 20’s, most of my 20’s, my aim was not to really fulfill that soul’s calling. What I tried was tried to fit in, fit in to the narrative. But it was a very difficult time for me. I really felt as though I was not true to myself.
There were a lot of pressures, and the kind of work I did, and the kind of circumstances and conditions, and engagements and people. It’s not a fault finding game or anything. But the context was not ripe for me. But for every experience there is a force and a counterforce. And the counterforce almost brings you back into your path, the trajectory that you think you are not honoring. And that’s what happened with me.
I have learned to listen to the voice, the voice inside me, and looking for signs outside. So it’s a continual dance. It’s not just me — it’s not either or — it’s both.
I live for myself. I don’t live for what the world is thinking of me.
You begin to create your own rhythm. And you have your own orchestra, both outside and inside. And then you dance — and it’s become a dance. And I just feel I am truly blessed in this kind of a guided trajectories of my inner and outer dance meeting.
A lot of my own spiritual mentoring started at a very young age. My vivid memories are mainly in Kashmir in the foothills of the Himalayas. It was the most amazing time of my life, imprinted in my soul and psyche.
You feel the presence of nature. You feel almost the helplessness of little people, the little humans, in this awesome, majestic terrain. And you get shaped by that. It touches your soul.
When you grow up in that kind of an ecosystem which is so rich and so abundant, you imbue that sense of richness, you feel abundant. You don’t aspire for anything, you don’t need anything, because you are satiated. You are so full because everything around you is so incredibly rich. And there’s an awesomeness in you that you never feel you lack anything.
And that feeling is what guides you later in your life — that feeling of richness, textured with your senses. And you feel as though what is out there is also in you. So that our external sense of abundance and richness — the textures, the fragrance, the smell, the senses — everything is feeding your psyche and your soul. So you become that.
Life is comprised of love and light. Imagine a seed in the soil of life. And it’s waiting, waiting, waiting for the ideal condition to manifest. It is lying there, dormant, in dark. But as soon as the light is there it just springs out. And then you put all the love and energy, looking and appreciating and nurturing and enjoying that unfurling of life from this dark, damp soil from where it was hiding. And that seed coming into life is a beautiful, beautiful energetic love. Until then everything is hidden in the dark, moist soil waiting for the right light and the right love to manifest life.
It is an almost continuous thread that weaves us. I may take the form of this human body and the tree has the form of a tree, but the humanness is basically life. And when we engage with that, no one is different. We are all basically part and parcel of the same life that flows through the veins, arteries and capillaries, the undercurrents and the overcurrents, you know. That is the only isness, is life.
I am going to be seventy next year. I am healthy and happy. And I’m not going to be afraid of dying. Everybody comes with a two way ticket. It’s only this world that makes you believe that you come with a one way ticket and you never leave the planet. No, you come to go. So you make sure that you live your life while you’re here, worthwhile…listening to your dance and your calling, and you live that life. And then you be prepared every day…prepared to go.
I’m housed in this body but I am part and parcel of this much grander life and this universe and the cosmos. And that’s my love. That’s where I came from and that’s where I go.
My granddaughter, I’ve been telling her that we are simply stardust. We’re just a tiny little speck of stardust. And you’ll go back to the stardust. She says, “I want to be a stardust.” Yeah, we are all stardust, and we will be stardust. So what is there? This body is a like a shirt that you just, you know, you’ll dismantle it and disperse it and dissolve it. And then be part of the grander cosmos, full of stardust.
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